What if they only say “I love you” when they get what they want?

Hey Everybody, Jill and I are gearing up for the big launch of the Perspectives on Feelings audio program. So, we thought we’d start by answering some of your specific questions about how to deal with feelings and how kids express their feelings. In this video I describe some things that Marcella can try with her stepson to encourage him to express himself even more authentically.

I hope you enjoyed my short video about how to give kids even more insight into their own feelings. Please let me know what you think! Oh, and keep an eye out for Jill’s first video next week… read more

What to do when they’re being demanding

Our first video blog!

Hey there!  I’m so excited about my very first Awake Parent video blog!  In today’s blog I’m answering a question from my friend Marcella, who’s having some challenges with her stepson.  Sometimes he has a “demanding attitude” and Marcella is ready to transform this irritating behavior.  Oh!  And prepare yourself for our new audio program “Perspectives on Feelings” which will be available in August!  More info coming soon about that. First, a quick video on dealing with a demanding attitude… read more

Congratulations, Shelly and Kevin!

Shelly, the beautiful bride Shelly, the beautiful bride, and Kevin, her handsome husband!

We’re taking a break from our regularly schedule series of blogs to say…congratulations to Shelly, my co-leader of AwakeParent, and her new husband, Kevin!  I was honored to attend their wedding this past weekend in Bend, Oregon, a more beautiful city than I could have imagined, nestled unobtrusively in mountains and hills and volcanoes, rivers and lakes and forests.

The wedding was beautiful, simple, and filled with loving family and friends, just the way such a celebration should be. read more

The power of your attention

Working in a Montessori Preschool classroom wasn’t easy, but I love kids and I found a way to enjoy myself in the midst of 25 3-5 year olds. One of the most useful tools I had was the power of my attention. I noticed everything–and the kids respected me for it. And, I didn’t just offer up copious praise at the drop of a hat either. When I gave appreciation for something, the kids knew I really meant it.

I required levels of cooperation, consideration, and polite manners in the classroom out of necessity. If I let things go too far in a certain direction, I could have a room full of upset kids and no way to console them all. I was there to help the kids maintain order, and have a constructive day of fun and learning. read more